What changes when you have a baby? A better question may be: What doesn't change? Here, writer and mom Rebecca Woolf lists her most notable post-baby observations. Then scroll down to read our favorite comments from readers about how their babies changed their lives.
1. You finally stop to smell the roses, because your baby is in your arms.
(Ya last time I always want somebody to give me roses, now I don't need any roses 'cos Ava with her rosy cheek and her baby scent is so soothing and makes you giggle with joy inside. And you just never know if the rose is sprayed with pesticides which could get to my baby through me. )2. Where you once believed you were fearless, you now find yourself afraid. [See a reader's perspective in #22, below.]
( Sometimes I would become paranoid over something which is not necessary to be worry off)
3. The sacrifices you thought you made to have a child no longer seem like sacrifices.
4. You respect your body ... finally. ( Hmmm..yeah for the health concerns )
5. You respect your parents and love them in a new way. (Noted : "Respect and love in a new way". Now, I am more firm and explicit in what I believe its true and not just following what people wants me to do on behalf their expectation, at the same time, I respect them for who they are.)
6. You find that your baby's pain feels much worse than your own.
(This is totally true, when Ava's having a fever, I felt like every part of my body is stiffing and extra tired )
7. You believe once again in the things you believed in as a child.
8. You lose touch with the people in your life whom you should have banished years ago.
9. Your heart breaks much more easily. ( Oh yes, totally.)
10. You think of someone else 234,836,178,976 times a day.
11. Every day is a surprise. ( The first laugh, the first fist, the first rolling, the first kick...everything feel like a magic!)
12. Bodily functions are no longer repulsive. In fact, they please you. (Hooray for poop!) ( Stay healthy and avoid depression, its just going to slow down your energy. )
13. You look at your baby in the mirror instead of yourself.
14. You become a morning person. ( which is a still struggle for me )
15. Your love becomes limitless, a superhuman power.
And from our readers...
1. "You discover how much there is to say about one tooth." — Ashley's mom
2. "You finally realize that true joy doesn't come from material wealth." — Anonymous
3. "You now know where the sun comes from." — Charlotte
4. "You'd rather buy a plastic tricycle than those shoes that you've been dying to have." — Sophie's mom
5. "You realize that although sticky, lollipops have magical powers." — Roxanne
6. "You don't mind going to bed at 9 p.m. on Friday night." — Kellye
7. "Silence? What's that?" — Anonymous
8. "You realize that the 15 pounds you can't seem to get rid of are totally worth having." — Brenda
9. "You discover an inner strength you never thought you had." — Ronin and Brookie's mom
10. "You no longer rely on a clock — your baby now sets your schedule." — Thomas' mom
11. "You give parents with a screaming child an 'I-know-the-feeling' look instead of a 'Can't-they-shut-him-up?' one." — Jaidyn's mom
12. "Your dog — who used to be your 'baby' — becomes just a dog." — Kara
[Many readers begged to differ, saying things like, " I disagree with number 12. My dogs are my additional children," "Nothing about previous babies, whether two- or four-legged, changes when a new miracle comes along," "My dog will never be 'just a dog," and "This is sad to me. My dog is still my baby too."]
13. "You take the time for one more hug and kiss even if it means you'll be late." — Tracey
14. "You learn that taking a shower is a luxury." — Jayden's mom
15. "You realize that you can love a complete stranger." — Dezarae's mom
16. You find yourself wanting to make this world a better place. — Arizona
17. If you didn’t believe in love at first sight before, now you do! — Ciara
18. You start to appreciate Sesame Street for its intellectual contribution. — Anon.
19. You have to quit watching the news because you see every story from a mother's perspective and it breaks your heart. — Brooke&Boys
20. You just plain love life more - everything comes together and becomes better because of one tiny person and your love for them. — Anon.
21. You finally find out the real reason you have those breasts. — Anon.
22. In response to #2 [above], I'd say that where you were once afraid, you're now fearless. I was always very timid and shy and let myself get walked all over … but now where my kid's concerned, I'll speak my mind and really connect with my inner "b"! — gummismom
23. The support you get from other people surprises you, because the people giving it are not always the ones you'd expect. — japanese_macaque
24. Nothing is just yours any longer. You share EVERYTHING! — DylanLsMom
25. No matter what you've accomplished in life, you look at your child and think, "I've done a GREAT job!" — Anon.
26. You want to take better care of yourself for your child. — Treasor
27. You can have the most wonderful conversation using only vowel sounds like "ahhh" and "oooo." — littlehulk2008
Noted : 28. I enjoyed buying stuff for Ava rather than buying for myself!29. Find myself everyday in front of the computer updating my blog.